tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57278351881610767162024-02-18T23:44:07.747-05:00if a tree falls...providing a voiceDan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-86094098484498479442013-03-19T13:08:00.000-04:002013-03-19T13:08:33.192-04:0013 year-olds in adult criminal justice system?<div align="center" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: white; color: #222222; font: 12px arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: normal; margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; word-spacing: 0px;">
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<span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">On March 5, NC legislators introduced a bill that would allow for children as young as 13 to be placed in the adult criminal justice system.</span><u></u><u></u></div>
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<span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;"><br /></span><b><span style="color: #ff6600; font-family: Garamond, serif; font-size: 14pt;">Do you know what this means for kids who are prosecuted as adults?</span></b><u></u><u></u></div>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px;"><span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">Youth are 36 times more likely to commit suicide in an adult facility than a juvenile detention</span><u></u><u></u></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px;"><span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">Kids in the adult system are 34% more likely than youth in the juvenile court system to be rearrested</span><u></u><u></u></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px;"><span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">Kids are at an extreme risk of physical and sexual assault when placed in adult facilities</span><u></u><u></u></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px;"><span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">Youth of color are more likely than white youth to be prosecuted in the criminal justice system</span><u></u><u></u></li>
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<span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">HB 217 would remove judicial discretion for certain felonies allegedly committed by juveniles 13 years or older. Currently under North Carolina law, judges weigh the protection of the public and the best interests of the juvenile in determining whether to transfer the case to adult court. Just by a written motion, Section 7 of HB 217 gives prosecutors absolute power to prosecute juveniles 13 years or older in the adult criminal court system and strips juvenile court judges of their decision-making powers. </span><u></u><u></u></div>
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<span style="font-family: Garamond, serif;">This is another attack on the youth and communities of North Carolina - removing judicial oversight leads to the unchecked prosecution of our children in adult court. This proposal is flawed and detrimental to the future of our state. </span><u></u><u></u></div>
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<b><span style="color: #ff6600; font-family: Garamond, serif; font-size: 14pt;">WE MUST STOP THIS ATTACK NOW! HB 217 is going to be heard this Wednesday at 10am.</span></b></div>
Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-22810932284008698482013-02-13T22:33:00.000-05:002013-02-13T22:33:32.766-05:00Sha'nell's story<div style="line-height: 13.5pt;">
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">Every time I went, I seemed to hear them say the same things: “We are sorry…We are still waiting for the judge to call your name…Come back after lunch…The judge postponed the case for another three months…The judge is out for lunch.”</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">I just sat in the waiting room getting more and more upset. I had no idea what was happening in the courtroom. I started to see craziness in people, people yelling, lawyers and social workers pacing. My head felt like it was spinning, as if my life was not moving forward.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">I went back to the courthouse five or six times. All the changing faces made me feel like I was not really being heard. Eventually I decided it was best if I spoke to the judge myself. I told one of the women that I wanted to be present in front of the judge. I begged her several times. She said she’d see what she could do, but it never happened.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">If I had been able to be in the courtroom and see the judge and hear what my family had to say, I can’t honestly tell you what I would have said or done. At the time, I wanted to tell the judge to leave my family alone. Back then, I was under too much pressure from my father, who was telling me to say that my stories about the sexual and physical abuse were made up. Because I love my family so deeply, I didn’t want to see them in any pain.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">My case was constantly being postponed and the more time passed, the more I felt pressure from my family to deny the charges of abuse. I became so unsure and confused that in the end, I even wrote letters for my family and made a tape recording stating that my stories were made up.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">One reason I did that was the guilt I felt for getting my family in trouble. But I also wrote the letters because I was sick and tired of coming to court and not knowing what was going on. I was sick and tired of the judge constantly wasting my time, having me wait in the courtroom all day for no results. I was sick and tired of begging to speak to the judge and not being heard. I felt sick and tired of being sick and tired. So I decide to close the case by lying.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">Deep down, I wanted to tell my side of the story, to talk about the abuse, because I wanted the judge, or anyone, to understand that I was in pain. But I never even got to see my lawyer or the judge, so how could I know if I could trust them enough to tell them the truth?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">I thought to myself, “How can this judge make decisions about my life when he has never seen me, knows nothing of me? All the judge knows is what he has heard about me, but he has never heard anything about my life from my mouth.”</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">I felt that in that courtroom, where everyone was speaking but me, my feelings were like a tiny drop of water. I felt that if I had a chance to speak, then my words and feelings would be like a deep ocean, an ocean of my pain and anger, that would overwhelm the judge and make him understand.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">It’s been about three and a half years, maybe more, since I’ve been in family court. I still think about it. </span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">What I had thought I wanted was not really what I wanted. I thought I wanted to go home and let my family win the case. But now I can see that if I had gone home, I would have still been in the same predicament that I had been in before (the sexual and physical abuse, the drug abuse). So I think that the judge’s decision not to send me home was right and I thank him for that.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">But even though I think the judge made the right decision without me being present, I still think the lawyers and the judges made a mistake by not allowing me to be in the courtroom and know what was going on, and for not giving me a chance me to speak up for myself.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">I found out what went on in the court several years after the hearing, three months before I was about to be discharged. I finally met my lawyer when I was about to turn 21, and he showed me the records from my case. That’s when I found out what my family and others had said about me, how they’d portrayed me as a liar, a manipulative child, and how my father had said that he loved his family and would never do such things.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">The day I read those records, I felt angry, upset, betrayed. It seemed as if my father won the case, and I had never had a chance to tell my own part of the story. Reading what they’d said about me so many years later, when I no longer had any chance to defend myself, seemed much worse than if I had heard what they’d said there in that courtroom.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">If I had been there, I know that maybe instead of standing up to my family, I would have been overwhelmed by what they were saying about me. Maybe I would not have had the heart to drown my mother in more pain. In the past, when I had spoken with her about the abuse, she would cry and ask me how I could do this to my family. After that, I never had the courage to keep on with my protests. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">When my mother would condemn me as a liar, a devil child, I would just agree with her, because deeply, I truly love my mother and it hurts me to see her in pain.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">But even if I’d been silent in court or agreed with my family’s charges, I still don’t think that it would have hurt me more than I’d already been hurt. And even if it did hurt me more, I still would want to have been present. Because my life is my life, and I want to be in control of it. Since I couldn’t be in control of whether I was staying in care, at least I wish the lawyers and judges could have let me see and hear from the people who were deciding how my life would be, and for them to have seen and heard from me.</span></div>
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Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-24051982881907391952013-01-31T12:48:00.000-05:002013-01-31T12:48:19.920-05:00Manny's Story<div style="line-height: 13.5pt;">
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="para1"></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">At my first foster home, there was a kid named Robert who thought he could bully my younger brother Daniel. One day I got so fed up with him that I punched him in the face, and my brother and I got kicked out. Then we were sent to live with my uncle, which was great, until he kicked us out. He said it was because Daniel and I were always fighting.</span></div>
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="para17"></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">After that, I opened up a lot more. I believed that Melba had paid her dues and earned her stripes as my foster mom. I started talking to Melba a lot, and I often found myself the one starting the conversations. We’d talk about the news, school, TV and anything else worth talking about. The conversations weren’t three hours long, but they were progress nonetheless. I also began to get closer to her family, which was cool. They didn’t live with us, but they all treated me as if I was really part of their family.</span></div>
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="para18"></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">Around the time I turned 14, I realized adoption was a possibility. We didn’t really talk about it, but as time went on I knew that eventually it had to happen.</span></div>
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="para20"></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">For years, my birth mother had filled my head with the dream that I’d be going home. But it never happened. Every time she made a promise that I could go home and then didn’t keep it, I felt knocked down to the ground. That’s when my mother would come again and lift up me up, only to knock me down again. But eventually, I got used to her routine.</span></div>
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="para22"></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">Melba has already been my parent for so long; the only thing that the adoption will change is that my brother and I will legally belong to her. Melba has given me advice and taught me those life lessons that you need to succeed, like saving money, helping people and taking school seriously.</span></div>
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="para23"></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Arial','sans-serif'; font-size: 10.5pt;">Melba and I have developed a bond over the past several years. I am happy that I finally got a break from the negativity, and soon it will be permanent. Melba has been my salvation from a dramatic and awful life. We started from one brick and built a skyscraper of trust, understanding and love<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-51237457196882624982013-01-09T20:31:00.004-05:002013-01-09T20:31:44.825-05:00In Their Own WordsSeveral children who live in foster care in NC were asked to write a response to the following question: <span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Book Antiqua'; text-align: -webkit-left;">“What would you tell a judge about your family?” </span><br />
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by Destiny, age 16</div>
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"Thank you for changing my life." That is one thing that I would say to a judge.</div>
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If it was not for the judge's decision and the decisions of many other people along the way, I wouldn't be as successful as I am today.</div>
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I am successful in the way that I present myself, the activities that I participate in, as well as the morals and values that I have set for myself with my foster parents. I am a cheerleader, making A/B Honor Roll, president of two clubs, taking multiple AP and Honor classes, have a job, and preparing to start my senior year of high school. I am successful because I overcame an obstacle that most of my friends could not even imagine going through.</div>
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A judge's decision helped make me into the person I am today, with my mother and father--not the biological ones. It changed my life. That one decision that changed my life for the better was the best decision that somebody could ever make for me.</div>
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That is why I would simply say, "Thank you, Judge."</div>
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by Autumn, age 15</div>
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I would ask that judge, why treat my parents like convicts? Is this really what's best for the children? Is our case only a number to you? Is my voice actually heard? For I feel my voice is only a raindrop in a demoralizing storm....</div>
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Why are you in such a hurry to close our case? I love seeing my mom's smile, and receiving my dad's hugs. Seeing them is what keeps me motivated and level-headed....</div>
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Adoption may be the answer in your book, but in mine it shuts the door to who I really am.... Yes, you have found a great foster home for us. As far as your plan for our future, I'm not so sure I can agree with that right now.</div>
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I know I don't have very much input, but just one more question: what would you do if you were in my shoes?</div>
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Olivia, age 13</div>
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Reading my family's history, you probably wouldn't like them very much, but neither you nor anyone else knows my family like I do. My whole life I sat back and listened to the harsh stereotypes and cruel accusations, but today I am reaching out.... They love me unconditionally and will always support me. Of course there have been hard times, but haven't there been hard times in every family? They are good people regardless of their backgrounds.</div>
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When I was six, I went to court. All I did there was cry. I was speechless. I didn't know what to say. I was scared.</div>
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Now, six years later, I am in a great home. I couldn't ask for a better family.</div>
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Take my dad for instance, with his corny jokes! And my mom--she's good at tennis and helps me with homework. My brother Reed is good at soccer and likes to play video games. My brother Seth wants to be a missionary, and my sisters Maggie and Callie both just graduated from college. My brother Shawn lives in California.</div>
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Then there is me, adopted into this big, happy family. I would want to say this to a judge because I have had a good experience being in foster care, and some people don't get good experiences.</div>
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Some day I also want to help kids experience a happy life!</div>
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I'm a sibling from a family of eight. Kindergarten through elementary I was a great kid. When I was in the 5th grade my mother caught breast cancer but was a survivor. In my middle school days I began making friends, experimenting with drugs, and gang banging. At that age I felt my reputation in the streets was way more important than an education. I was known for stealing cars and fighting. I was going down the wrong path.</div>
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When I was 15 I got sent to juvenile for stealing and then I was sent to out-of-home placement because I was out of control and rude. I went to a level one group home. I was there for 6 months, showed improvement, and got discharged. I went back home.</div>
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It was okay, but my mom's cancer came back. It spread, and she died of bone cancer. These were hard times for me, so I kept myself busy by robbing and stealing. I felt alone and wasn't being disciplined for my actions.</div>
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On June 22, 2011 my dad gave me, my little brother, and my little sister away to DSS due to lack of income, discipline, and motivation. He said his mindset was gone due to my mother's death. Today I'm in foster care. I go to therapy, I'm pursuing my GED. Me and my father have no contact at all.</div>
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I've learned that second chances are mistakes' best friend. A wise man once said: "the only way out is the way through." I understood right away. I went through the stealing and robbing stages and it wasn't me. Now I want to be a mentor and let other young teenagers know that there is a way!</div>
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I have been in foster care for six years.</div>
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Before I went into foster care I had a bad attitude and could not control my anger. I used to tease the cats and even killed my sister's fish. I would not follow directions. I would always do things my way and not the adult's way.</div>
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But after I went into foster care I learned how to control my anger and get along better with my siblings. I would like to go back home and get along with my siblings much better than I used to.</div>
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I would tell the judge that I have completed all my goals, and that I am confused about why they won't send me back home to my family.</div>
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I will ALWAYS love my family. No matter what they do, I will still love them.<br />—Sarah, age 15</div>
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There are so many things I could say to a judge about my family, but if I had to choose one thing, I would tell them that no matter what, we never give up! Sometimes it becomes very hard for my brothers and I to persevere through things such as mowing the lawn, doing homework, and even eating broccoli. I thank God that I am blessed to have parents like mine. --Sasha, age 16</div>
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I hope that the judge would see that my family is the best and that they all love me to death and have been with me and supported me since I was born. Next month I am transitioning from the foster home back to my home with my family. I am so excited to live with them again and show them how much I have learned from my experiences at the foster homes and group homes. I have lived away from my family for three to four years and I can't wait to go back home! --Taylor, age 17</div>
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I was 11 when I was placed in foster care. . . . I have been in 6 foster homes, 4 group homes, 1 lock down PRTF, and soon to be stepped down to another foster home. . . .</div>
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My sister Destiny will soon be 18, and has planned to sign herself out of foster care. My mom has requirements she is supposed to meet but hasn't really made an effort. My dad signed away his rights. Outside of my sister I have no close family I would be able to live with. The court initially gave my mom a year, but kept extending it till it turned into four years. But my team keeps telling me it's still a possibility to live with my mom.<br />--Krystyna, age 15</div>
Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-58374507999127402142012-12-13T16:31:00.000-05:002012-12-13T16:31:57.006-05:00No "exemption" for child abuse<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The following article, about unlicensed youth homes/camps that are somewhat exempt from Child Protective Services due to their religious affiliation, is highly disturbing. This is not an issue about church vs. state or public vs. private agencies and which is better equipped to work with troubled youth. It is simply about abuse, and how no one should be exempt from the law when they are physically and mentally abusing children in our, or any, society. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I realize that there are some people who will say, “Why were the children put into these homes or camps in the first place?” The quick answer to this is “it doesn’t matter.” Quite simply, children from this article were, at times, tortured and beaten for such “crimes” as not doing enough push-ups, throwing up due to exhaustion, and complaining of injuries. And in typical oppressed fashion, they became terrified to speak. Child abuse simply cannot be tolerated for any reason.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><a href="http://www.tampabay.com/news/publicsafety/article1258390.ece" target="_blank">http://www.tampabay.com/news/publicsafety/article1258390.ece</a></span></div>
<a href="http://www.tampabay.com/faccca/" target="_blank">http://www.tampabay.com/faccca/</a>Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-6329208347613427702012-12-11T10:17:00.000-05:002012-12-12T19:29:43.196-05:00Becca's story<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">[DISCLAIMER: ALTHOUGH THIS IS A TRUE STORY, IT PRESENTS TOPICS THAT MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR EVERYONE. THERE ARE SOME “CRINGEWORTHY” MOMENTS. BUT IF JUST READING ABOUT THESE INCIDENTS MAKE US CRINGE, ONE CAN ONLY IMAGINE WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR BECCA TO ACTUALLY LIVE THIS LIFE]...<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Since I was little, I knew I would never amount to anything. My mother had always told me that I wasn’t worth much and I could never hold a candle my little sister.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was always perfect. And my mom always made sure to remind me of this with daily comparisons to her.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">We lived in a single wide trailer on the outskirts of town. My mother worked a full-time second shift job and my sister and I remained in the home at night with my step-dad, who was usually drunk. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The sexual abuse started early, immediately after I hit puberty around age 12. I guess when I reached puberty and my body started to change, I caught his eye. I often wore loose clothing to cover up my growing curves, which was necessary because of how fast my body was maturing. I still played with dolls and stuff but my step-dad got me interested in watching wrestling on TV with him. I guess when I sat beside him, his lingering eye began to see what my body had turned into.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He never showed an interest in my little sister. Maybe because she was his blood. I wasn't. I have never met my real dad.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">After the first incident of sexual abuse occurred, I hesitantly told my mom. She wasn't very sympathetic, which was what I feared. She told me to shut my damn mouth and stop stirring up shit in her family; that she had a "good man,” as she’d always called him. With my pleas falling on deaf ears and my mom doing nothing to stop it, I continued to endure the sexual abuse weekly. I have mostly blocked out many of my step dad's drunken nights when he sent my sister to watch television in his bedroom and requested that I go to my room. Each time, I knew how the story would end. I would go in my room and was expected to be naked on my bed. My step dad would them come in and shut the door. I remember the strong smell of beer and motor oil (he was a mechanic by trade). I still get physically ill when I smell beer and motor oil together. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">"You are mine baby," he would pant out. When he would finish, he would often say, "If you tell anyone, nobody will believe you. Everyone knows you are a fucking crazy."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I knew the last part of his sentence was true. I was "a crazy.” This was verified by my mom and the doctor. My moods would change drastically and I couldn’t control my emotions. They called it “Bipolar” as I reached my teenage years, but I really didn’t understand what that meant. I didn’t know it at the time, but now I’m pretty sure that my erratic behaviors were not necessarily because of Bipolar, but because I was living in such a toxic home. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">They prescribed me Lithium, and I hated how it made me feel. I often pretended to take it, then went outside and threw it in the woods. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">As the abuse continued, I felt hopeless. At school and in the neighborhood, I started to gravitate towards the "trouble makers” (I mean, who else was I going to hang with? The head cheerlead?). At age 13, I began sneaking out with my friends as I wanted to do anything to get out of the house. I often met up with the boys in the neighborhood to drink wine coolers, smoke pot, and even to have sex. I must have felt that being promiscuous was my calling. I couldn't get enough of it. I guess it numbed me due to the sexual abuse I’d experienced. Or maybe it empowered me. I don’t really know.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I landed in jail (“juvey”) the first time when I was 15. A few of my friends and I “stole” a car from an elderly lady in the neighborhood (we were planning on returning it). All the law enforcement people, and even my mom and step-dad, felt that being in jail would "teach me a lesson.” What they didn’t realize is that this wasn’t so bad—in fact, it gave me a nice break from being my step dad's little sex toy. When I returned home the abuse continued. My depression got worse and I began cutting myself on my inner thigh and upper parts of my arms, hoping my step-dad would find me less attractive and would leave me alone. I didn't know that each little cut would be so relieving. I remember watching myself bleed as I dug deeper and deeper into my skin and feeling a release of my pain and emotions. This was something I had control of and enjoyed inflicting such pain/pleasure. I was using drugs more than ever, feeling it helped my mood better than the Lithium or other medications did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I ended up getting pregnant for the first time when I was close to 16. I dropped out of school and stayed at home with my growing belly. I didn't take care of myself, gained an enormous amount of weight in hopes I would again be less attractive to my step dad, who I was hoping was not the father. This only worked for a few months. I ended up miscarrying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Again, I went back to my old ways but found a new group of friends, ones that were much older and experienced in harder drugs. My friends were the only people I trusted—they had a crappy life just like me, and could understand me better than others. I ended up leaving my home one Saturday and moving in with my boyfriend. This lasted for a while. I liked the partying, having sex on my terms, and making my own money through selling my boyfriend's drugs. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When I was 20, I probably should have been dead and gone due to my lifestyle. I continued to take drugs and dabbled in criminal activity. I had a new man in my life and we were getting married. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">One day, he didn't come home. My friends had told me that he was sleeping with some older lady. I decided to see for myself and went to her home. It was dark and I watched them having sex through a window. My anger took control of me and I grabbed an empty Corona bottle and busted through the sliding glass door. I ran to my boyfriend and pushed him on the ground. His bitch screamed out loud that she was calling the law. I bypassed her and grabbed him by his neck. He was a small guy so with my weight and anger, I overpowered him. I drug him from the collar of his shirt through the broken sliding glass door and began slashing him with the broken glass and started kicking him. His old lady kept screaming in the background.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Before I knew it, the cops came and pulled me off of him.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I felt pleasure seeing him lay there bleeding. No man was ever going to hurt me again even if I did go to prison. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When the case was heard in court, my court appointed attorney talked to me for less than 5 minutes before the hearing. Court was very confusing—it seemed that I couldn’t defend myself and only the people in suits or a robe could speak, but not the actual person whose life was on the line. I ended up in a prison for 18 months. I admitted to all if my actions: the assault, writing worthless checks, and drug activities. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When I ended up in prison, I found it to be a whole new world. Women had been locked up for crimes that were a lot harsher than mine, and it was rough. It seemed I was always either getting the shit beaten out of me, or beating the shit out of someone else. A cell mate of mine began teaching me the ropes. She said that it would be in my best interest to join "a family.” She explained that the families included grandmothers, mothers, and their children. The grandmothers were declared the highest rank because the length of time that they had been incarcerated and their crimes. The grandmothers were usually the murderers. Each group had their own "pushers.” These were usually the younger inmates who could get you any kind of contraband you wanted. By being part of the groups, you would be protected by them but would sometimes have to pleasure the older ones through sexual acts. I participated in all of it in an effort to survive. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I did my fair share of fighting and picking on the newer and more helpless inmates. One lady I used to pick on was an elderly woman named Dorothy. She had long stringy gray hair and walked around with a blank stare on her face. She wouldn't talk to anybody. I would throw food at her and would often flick my cigarettes on her. I was told to do so and for once in my life I followed the rules. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">For months, I never asked why all the inmates hated her. One day I asked one of the grandmothers and she told me Dorothy was crazy and had done something beneath contempt: she had killed her own baby and chopped him up because she was mad at her husband, who was abusive to her. This was the story that was being told about Dorothy, and I have no clue if this story was true but regardless something inside of me woke up. I didn't belong in this place and I needed to get my shit together. I wasn't going to grow old in prison. I needed to make something of myself. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The doctors straightened my meds out and I became somewhat more stabilized for a while. When my time was up, I was released. I was told I had been released on "good behavior" and I could begin to work on becoming a productive member of society. I couldn't go back home though. My mom and step dad were still living there and I had no friends of merit. My case worker ended up finding a shelter that took in homeless people. I went there and stayed for a few weeks but was kicked out due to fighting, although I was just protecting myself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For once in my life, my mom offered to help me a little. She still didn't believe me about the sexual abuse that I experienced, and because of this my relationship with her will always be difficult. She always believed her husband over her own daughter, and she never did anything to stop the repeated sexual abuse that has so drastically changed my entire life. It makes me mad. But I have no one else.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When I left the shelter, I started working on college courses. I had finished my GED when I was in prison. I was able to scrape a living somewhat from cleaning some houses, getting paid under the table. I moved in with an elderly relative who I wish would have let me live with her when I was being abused repeatedly by my step-dad. It might have changed my whole life if just one person would have protected me. Maybe I wouldn’t have become such a mess. Maybe I wouldn’t have gone to prison, which prevents me from getting hired from any respectable business or agency. Hell, I can’t even get on at McDonald’s with my criminal record, and I’m only in my young 20’s. Will it always be like this? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">My step-dad died several months after I left the shelter. I had mixed feelings about his death. I did cry. While I was crying, my mom put her arm around me, thinking she was comforting me. “See?” she said. “You must have loved him. You’re crying because he died.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I pulled away from her. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">No, mom</i>, I thought. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">That’s not why I’m crying.</i></span><o:p></o:p></div>
Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-13439947155400273812012-12-07T20:56:00.002-05:002012-12-07T20:56:34.085-05:00Foster Children and Psychotropic Drugs<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif'; font-size: 12pt;">This ABC report on 20/20 (link below) demonstrates many of the challenges for children in foster care, focusing primarily on the use (or overuse) of psychotropic medications for children in foster care. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif'; font-size: 12pt;">This certainly does not mean that all psychotropic medications are bad. Sometimes psychotropic medications help tremendously. Sometimes they are the only intervention that stabilizes a child enough to be taught in school, or to gain invaluable insight in therapy. But this report does a good job of exposing the potential dangers of prescribing numerous psychotropic medications to children in an effort, as one foster child once told me, “to turn me into a robot for their benefit.” <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif'; font-size: 12pt;">This video is 30 minutes long, and if you watch to the end you will also see the positive side of foster care: those parents who provide permanent, unconditional acceptance even as the child’s behaviors present tremendous challenges. Unfortunately, only about 1 in 10 children who are put up for adoption end up receiving this permanent, unconditional acceptance that they so desperately need. And deserve. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://abc.go.com/watch/2020/SH559026/VD55156221/2020-122-overmedication-in-foster-care" target="_blank">http://abc.go.com/watch/2020/SH559026/VD55156221/2020-122-overmedication-in-foster-care</a>Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-26473326074096654872012-12-04T18:52:00.001-05:002012-12-04T18:52:24.760-05:00Use of Restraints
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For anyone who has worked with children with severe
behavioral issues, you know firsthand that it can be quite a challenge to find
techniques that keep everyone safe while simultaneously providing the child
with important skills and tools to better manage his behavior in the future.
But such strategies and techniques do exist; furthermore, there are exceptional trainings available.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Below is a link to an ABC News report that demonstrates the prospective
complications with using restraints and other potentially dangerous techniques
on children, some of which have resulted in major injury and even death. There
are better ways. I have had the privilege of being trained by Neuropsychiatrist
Dr. Bruce Perry on alternatives to restraint. Dr. Perry has an informative website
about working with children with emotional and behavioral issues (<a href="http://www.childtrauma.org/">http://www.childtrauma.org/</a>) in a very
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<a href="http://tinyurl.com/ide1129121a">http://tinyurl.com/ide1129121a</a><br />
<!--EndFragment-->Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-47437272576018483652012-11-30T15:00:00.000-05:002012-11-30T15:00:15.974-05:00Daquan's story (age 10)<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">My mom had a hard time taking care of me all my life, but starting about three years ago it got real bad, so she took me to my Grandma’s one day because my Grandma took care of my other siblings and cousins. My older relatives living with Grandma were in frequent trouble with the law, and soon I got involved with some of their illegal activities as well. Then one day I had to go to court because I got caught shoplifting with my older cousins. I knew I was in trouble that day, but I had no idea that it might be the last time I ever stayed with my Grandma again. The judge ordered me (and all of my siblings and cousins) into foster care that very afternoon, and after several hours of confusion I was placed in a family in a different county and different school district. I didn’t know where they took my siblings and cousins.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">In the first foster home I stayed, they were nice but very strict—in many way, their home was the very opposite of what I was used to. I was kicked out of there after 7 days, for taking food and then for taking a $10 bill. They said I’d “never change.” I then went to another home with white foster parents, who seemed to accept me. I would steal and hoard and they’d deal with it and move on. I thought they would keep me a long time. Then I went on my first unsupervised home visit to my Grandma’s house and things changed. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">My home visit was supposed to be for just 2 hours, but it ended up being 8 by the time my new “foster dad” got me—not that I minded the extra time with my family. I asked him why it took so long for him to arrive, and he just said that he had a doctor appointment and had told the social worker it would be longer than two hours before he could get me; however, no one had told me that. I loved being back at my Grandma’s house, and so when it was time to leave I refused to go. But Grandma forced me to go, angrily telling me we’d both be in trouble if I didn’t. I felt like maybe she didn’t want me there because she didn’t fight hard enough for me to stay.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I didn’t say a word on the way back to the foster home, not a single one. The foster dad tried to get me to talk, but I was too sad and mad—sad about leaving, and mad that I had to. When we got to the foster home, he told me (not <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">asked</b> me) to take a shower. I refused. His wife then came in and said I had to. I said I don’t have to do anything. Soon their adult daughter came to the house from down the street and started yelling at me too, telling me to listen to her parents. They threated to keep me from my next visit with my grandma and siblings if I didn’t do what they said. I lost it. I told them I had rights and told them I’d cut them if they kept me from my own family. They yelled louder, and I yelled louder, and they called the police. They said I didn’t appreciate anything they’d done for me, that they gave me a roof and food and clothing and that I lived in a better place than my own family could ever provide, and this was how I repaid them? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">By the time the police arrived that night at the foster home, the foster parents already had all of my things packed. I heard the foster mom yelling into the phone to her supervisor when the police arrived: “HE CAN’T STAY HERE TONIGHT. HE’S GOT TO GET OUT NOW!!” They pressed charges on me for "communicating threats." It was 11:00 at night on a school night when I was taken away. They took me that night to stay in another foster home, the one I’d been kicked out of a few weeks earlier. Then for the next few nights, I stayed in a foster home about an hour away with some new people until they found another foster home for me, which was even further away from my Grandma and siblings and cousins than the previous two.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I’m now in a new foster home. I haven’t unpacked anything since I got here. I’m going to turn 11 in two weeks. I hope I’ll get some presents on my birthday, but I really don’t know where I’ll be on that day.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-21642032629132339492012-11-27T19:39:00.000-05:002012-11-27T19:39:18.891-05:00Mindy's story
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Since I was a young child, I resided in the home of my great-
grandparents. My mother and father were not active participants in my life. My
mother was a substance abuser in and out of trouble and my father did not have
anything to do with me. My younger sister and I both lived with our
great-grandparents.<o:p></o:p></div>
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At age 13, DSS became involved with my family. A referral was made by law
enforcement due to the lack of supervision and my defiant behaviors within the
neighborhood. I can remember the incident that had occurred resulting in the
referral. One day after looking for our missing cat, we found it dead. It had
been poisoned. Since our neighbors had poisoned other animals of ours, we all
assumed that they had also poisoned our cat. When my great-grandparents left me
and my little sister alone (which was often), I decided to confront the
neighbor. When spotting her outside, I began to scream curse words at her. She
contacted the Sheriff's Department. The Sheriff's Department then called DSS to
come to the home due to the lack of supervision. <o:p></o:p></div>
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DSS kept an eye on our family for the next year. Home visits were made
and comments were stated implying that my great grandparents were too old to
take care of me and my sister. I had no supervision. I began to increase my
defiant behaviors. I would run around with my friends, frequent a local pool
hall that was not so "child friendly", and was delinquent. I would
not say that my friends and I completed criminal acts but we were doing
whatever we wanted to do. My grades were bad in school and I was a foul mouthed
little brat.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In 8th grade, I found myself being a target of bullying. Two girls at
school and their 35 year old mother would often bully and threaten me. I
reported the threats and bullying behaviors to my teachers. Nothing was done
about it. I felt targeted and scared. With having no help from the school, I
felt I needed to take actions into my own hands. I went to the mother's
workplace. When arriving, I was "jumped" by the 35 year old mother
and her two daughters. I remember the incident occurred over a ten minute span
until the police were called. I left the scene before the police arrived. After
the incident I was informed the police were "looking for me". I went
on my own to the police department to give a statement. I was informed that I
was being charged with simple assault against a 22 year old pregnant woman who
worked with the 35 year old. I was confused because the 22 year old woman had
not been outside when the fight had occurred and I did not assault her. I was
placed on juvenile probation on 02/14/2006.
I was ordered to complete community service hours.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In April 2006, I returned to court for a juvenile probation hearing. My
probation was extended because I had not completed my community service hours.
Ironically, my mother was also placed on probation this same day due to drug
charges. She was informed by the judge that she would need to reside in a
drug-free environment, which ended up being in the home with my
great-grandparents. When the judge was
informed that my mother would be moving into the home with my
great-grandparents and her 2 children, the judge immediately stated that the
family had until 2pm to find me another place to reside since I was also on
probation. Nobody wanted me. Nobody else in my family would take me because I
was a brat. I was placed into DSS custody that day.<o:p></o:p></div>
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On the day of placement, I did not know this would be the beginning of
my life being shuffled around like a bag of potatoes. <o:p></o:p></div>
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My first placement was a group home. I remained in the placement from
April 2006 to June 2006. I disrupted the placement after returning to my
cottage one evening after a dental appointment. When I had returned, I was
informed that the whole cottage had been placed on restrictions due to the
behaviors of one of the other kids in the home. I did not understand why we all
had to be punished. I refused to go to my bedroom and became argumentative with
staff. I threw a glass down on the floor. The staff person claimed that I had
thrown it at her. My response was, "Bitch if i wanted to have hit you, I
would have. I played softball for years!" This response on top of my
defiant behaviors caused me to be discharged from the group home. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Since the placement disruption had been sudden, an immediate placement
had to be found. I was placed in a home temporarily with a single female, her
daughter, and other foster kids. During this placement, I witnessed police
being called out to the home on numerous occasions and the foster mother
allowing her daughter to do drugs. I could not understand why DSS had taken me
out of my safe home to be placed in an unsafe environment. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I was then moved to a runaway shelter for a week. I threatened to run
away and they kicked me out. Again, my social worker had to locate an immediate
placement. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I was placed then in another group home setting. From June 21, 2006 to
November 2006, I remained in this placement. I began to work on my goals and
follow rules. I had 2 supportive house parents that assisted me with the goals
and provided positive guidance for me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Since I had begun to show improvements with my behavior, I was placed
back into my great-grandparent's home on a trial placement in November 2006. I
was excited to be placed back in the home and had chosen to really turn my life
around. I followed all rules of DSS, my great-grandparents, and school. Then,
in March 2007, my great-grandmother passed away. After this occurred, DSS felt
that my great-grandfather was too elderly to supervise me and my sister alone.
My mother had gone to prison and he was alone in the home. I was again removed
from my home on April 19, 2007. I was placed in yet another group home setting.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In my new placement, I was forced to attend medication management. My
SW had informed the doctor that I was depressed and could not sleep well. I
remember stating to the doctor and my SW, "Hell yes I am depressed. You
have just ripped me out of my home and I am surrounded by people who do not
know me that are making decisions about me. My great-grandmother has just died.
And, no I can't sleep because I am in a strange environment! I do not need you
to medicate me!" Well, they placed me on medication anyways. One
medication was Lexapro and another was for sleep. I remained in this placement
until January 2008.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In January 2008, I was able to return back to my family home on trial
placement. I continued to state to people working with me that it was not fair
that my great-grandfather was 87 years old and he had nobody to look after him.
He had looked after me since I was a baby and now at the age of 16 (almost 17),
I needed to return the favor! I was allowed to go back home when I was 17,
still with DSS involvement until I turned 18. Even though I was not in another
home, I continued to have DSS supervision. <o:p></o:p></div>
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While I was in DSS custody, I did not feel that my assigned SW, her
supervisor, and my case manager were honest with me. It was like they did not
want to tell me the truth because they were afraid that I would "flip
out". Nobody understood what I needed except another SW working in the
LINKS program and a Social Work Assistant. They helped me the most and would
encourage me to do well. They had faith in me and provided me support. <o:p></o:p></div>
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My SW did try to help my
family...mostly my mother. What my SW
did not understand though is that my mother needed rehab and prison to change
her lifestyle, and by putting most of her time and energy on my mom, she often
neglected the needs of my sister and me. But the good news is that my mom is
now drug-free.<o:p></o:p></div>
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People do not understand that being in foster care (for some) is like
being in prison. Even though people would tell you to be comfortable, you never
could be. It is a whole new world! You are told what you can wear, how you can
speak, when you need to go to bed, when to wake up, told to do chores, etc.—and
it’s a different feeling when it comes from strangers and not your own family.
You don’t know if you can trust them, and what usually seems to be so important
to them isn’t usually very important to you.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Even though I did have bad
experiences here and there, I would not change anything about my life. I
believe that I have become a better person as a result of it all. I don't
regret being placed in foster care or for the bad choices I have made in life,
because that is a part of who I am now. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I am now in community college working
towards transferring to a four-year school. I have been enrolled in Criminal
Justice but had to quit the program due to work and other hurdles in my life. I
would like to work in the criminal justice field as an investigator. If this
does not happen, I would like to focus on working with children in the system. <o:p></o:p></div>
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My sister
knocked on my door at 3:00 a.m. She seemed strung out on something, and she was
bleeding and bruised. She had no place to stay. Jimmy kicked her out, beat her,
told her he would kill her. I told her to go to the shelter, that I couldn’t
let her stay with me because my apartment was partially subsidized with a Section 8 voucher, but she said she hated the shelter. She said it would just
be for the night. My kids were asleep and it was a school night. I didn’t want
to hear the drama from my sister and I didn’t want her to wake my kids. I was
letting her sleep on the couch, but I was afraid her bleeding would stain the
couch or the blanket, so I told her we needed to get her washed up. We went to
the bathroom and I started to clean her up. It was hard because I’d taken Niquil
because of a bad cold and I was really drowsy. She screamed in pain as I
cleaned her cuts, and I yelled at her out of frustration. <o:p></o:p></div>
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The kids
(ages 6 and 7) heard it all, and they dragged themselves into the bathroom. If
one woke up, the other always did too, and it’s been like that ever since my
youngest was a baby. My sister suddenly got excited to see them, as if it was
Christmas Eve and not 3:00 in the morning on a school night. “Hey Sweeties! Give
your aunt Casey a hug!” She held out her arms, forcing me to stop cleaning up
her wounds for a minute. <o:p></o:p></div>
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“Casey, let
them go back to bed. It’s a school night.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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“I know, but
I miss them.” Then she starts thinking of her own kids, who are now in foster
care, and starts crying. “And I miss my own babies too.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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know Casey.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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The kids
have trouble falling back asleep. I finally get Casey down on the couch at
3:30. I reset my alarm to give myself an extra 15 minutes of sleep before
getting the kids up for school.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In the
morning, I hit the snooze button one too many times and we rush like crazy to
get the kids onto the school bus by 6:15. Casey is still awake on the couch,
likely because of the meth—it can keep you awake even when you’re tired. She’s
watching an infomercial but offers no help.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We race out
the door to the bus, likely forgetting something. The bus is just closing its
doors as we get out the front door of our apartment, but the driver sees us and
waits. I say good-bye and go back into the house to realize what I’d
forgotten—to give both kids their ADHD medication. Crap! <i>The school’s going to be up my ass again</i>, I think. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I try and
talk with Casey, who’s still awake, about going to the shelter and getting help
for her drug problem. I know how tough it is to get off drugs from personal
experience. Casey and I used to do drugs together. My kids were in foster care
for a while once as well, but I got them back. I got off drugs. But I know how
hard it is to do so. I’m losing patience with Casey. I love her—we were each
other’s only support growing up, when our step-dad was having his way with both
of us while our mom worked 2<sup>nd</sup> shift. But she’s bringing me down
now.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I can’t get
anywhere with her. She’s too strung out. I just want to go back to bed. I can’t
handle her drama, and I’m tired and not feeling well. I take some more Niquil
to help me sleep through it all.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Just before
noon, I wake up to a commotion. I hear Casey cussing someone out. I figure
Jimmy’s come for her, and I run out to help. But when I get there, it’s the
landlord. He tells me he’s giving me 30 days notice to get out, that I know I
can’t have a druggie in the home due to my Section 8 voucher. I beg him to
reconsider, but he’s made up his mind. My sister keeps yelling and I tell her
to shut the fuck up.<o:p></o:p></div>
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old social worker at Social Services to ask for help. While talking to her, I
realize that she was the one who called the landlord, that someone must have called her for one reason or another to complain about me. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<span style="line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">I hung up on the social worker and just started
to cry. </span></span><!--EndFragment-->Dan Beattyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17967640679427595606noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5727835188161076716.post-70261984720922713792012-11-24T00:47:00.000-05:002012-11-24T00:47:37.706-05:00About this blog<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGt8hoUXjh6iS3tlZshUodFyxKCiWzcCpMWX_qJSQpNVR5zCvG74B2QossOPYqK5d4BSkwfuPsoahlJ2v7KvKxBR1NKj40Gvx8532ezOcH7tD6E0raHmFrqeE1aNiZoID52AkuSwPb_mkp/s1600/suffering1-550x413.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGt8hoUXjh6iS3tlZshUodFyxKCiWzcCpMWX_qJSQpNVR5zCvG74B2QossOPYqK5d4BSkwfuPsoahlJ2v7KvKxBR1NKj40Gvx8532ezOcH7tD6E0raHmFrqeE1aNiZoID52AkuSwPb_mkp/s200/suffering1-550x413.jpg" width="200" /></a> “If a tree falls in
the forest and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?” Or: “To <b>be</b> is to be perceived.”<b> </b>– Bishop George Berkeley (1685 – 1753)<o:p></o:p></div>
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If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear
it, does it make a sound? This question has been debated by philosophers and
scientists for nearly 300 years. For those of us in the human services field,
an equally compelling question may be: “If a person’s voice is ignored, or
shunned, or silenced, or mocked, does her voice make a sound?”<o:p></o:p></div>
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I am neither a scientist nor a philosopher, but from a scientific perspective, many have suggested that
the sound of the tree that falls on deaf ears does <b>not</b>
exist. This is because sound <span lang="EN">is
vibration, transmitted through the mechanism of a listening device (ear, tape
recorder, etc), and the falling of the tree or any other disturbance will
produce vibration of the air that can be heard or recorded. If there be no ears
to perceive this sound, it is essentially devoid of said sound.</span><span lang="EN"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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From a philosophical standpoint, the following question
is sometimes posed: If a sound is not <b>perceived</b>
by others, does it really exist? Along these same lines: Does a “soundless
voice”—i.e., one that falls on deaf ears, is ignored, or is misconstrued—really
exist? Just as author Ralph Ellison described himself as an “invisible man” in
society during Jim Crow times, there continues to be less overt, but
persistent, invisibility and voicelessness experienced by those who suffer in
silence in society today: The child who is being abused behind closed doors;
the woman who is being controlled and physically accosted by her spouse; the person
with a disability who is denied a chance at gainful employment; the person on
food stamps who gets judged at the store when no one truly knows her individual
story, nor wants to know. <o:p></o:p></div>
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If a person’s voice goes unheard, does it exist? If a person
is in need of help, living on the fringe of society, who is marginalized,
stereotyped, and judged by others who do not know, nor want to know, her story—does
this person’s voice exist any more (or any less) than an unknown sound caused
by the falling of an unknown tree in an unknown forest? <o:p></o:p></div>
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This blog is designed to try and provide a voice, or
perspective, for those people whose voice has rarely been heard. Contributors
will include social workers, authors, therapists, teachers, and foster care
providers, as well as articles from the “voiceless” themselves—children growing
up in abusive homes and in the foster care system; people with mental health issues
and physical disabilities trying to maneuver through a challenging system; the
poor, the oppressed, and others. Although legislative issues may arise, this
blog will not endorse a political party nor a political candidate directly. On
occasion, this blog will be critical of some systems, as well as of some
individuals—individuals such as social workers, foster parents, and
teachers—who do not appear to be showing respect to individuals in need of
help. This is not, in any way, to disregard the vast majority of people who
work tirelessly for little or no pay to help do their part in supporting
children and otherwise voiceless people. And this blog is open to comments from any
person, but please keep all comments cordial and respectful.<o:p></o:p></div>
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